I need feminism because every financial institution I have ever dealt with as a married woman has defaulted to putting my husband’s name first on everything. He’s always the “Borrower,” I’m always the “Co-borrower,” despite the fact that these companies never deal with him. They only ever deal with me, because I handle all of our finances and personal business decisions.
That we’re ordered as a result of gender is endlessly frustrating, because many of these accounts then don’t consider me “authorized” to make alterations to the account. I have to get them on the phone while my husband is present, get him to tell them it’s okay, and then he hands the phone back to me so I can conduct my business. Because he has no fucking idea. He’s not a money or numbers person. He’s not the breadwinner. We have pooled our finances because it’s easier (and smarter) for me to take care of it all, but this inane industry standard that the male name goes first and the female name goes second means I have to jump through that many more hoops to take care of my family.
This is EXACTLY how it is with my parents.
If I ever get married (to a guy) and someone pulls this shit, I’m threatening to sue and I will make the biggest fucking noise out there, because it seems the only way to get issues heard in this world is to make them heard out a jury’s mouth.